Self-Love Challenge: 10 Quick and Simple Ideas for Practicing Self-Care as A Busy Mom
I always say “Our kiddos are watching”. And it’s the truth. Whether we know it or not, we are modeling behaviors for them every minute of every day. Tough love moment. Are you modeling self-love and self-care?
For many of you, the answer is No.
If you feel guilty about taking time out of your day (which you shouldn’t, but I get why you do) then think about taking that time to model good habits for your kids.
Show them what positive self-talk, self-love and self-care look like.
Show them how important it is to take of yourself FIRST…after all, you can’t pour from an empty cup.
Take the 10-Day Self-Love Challenge and start incorporating quick and easy self-care practices into your busy day!
Day One: Create Affirmations
I said “simple” self-care practices…I didn’t say “easy”. There’s a difference!
This is what I want you to do today: write down FIVE things that you love about yourself, things you would cherish if they were strengths in someone else.
Take each of your five statements and write them on a note card…turning them into affirmations.
Each day, before you even get out of bed, read your affirmations to yourself.
Then read them again out loud. Make this part of your morning routine.
Day Two: Eat Mindfully
Whether you are sitting down to a gourmet meal prepared by a personal chef or mac and cheese with hot dogs because it has been “one of those days”, slow down and eat mindfully.
Think about how lucky you are to have food on the table…and to be gathered with family or friends to partake in the meal.
Notice the textures and flavors as you chew your food.
You can’t really have self-love if you are not fueling your body…so this is a big one!
Day Three: Start A Journal
A journal is just a tool to help you release your thoughts and free your mind.
You could start your journal in a blank notebook from the dollar store, a blank book like this one made for free writing, or even a prompted book like this one to help you focus on a specific task (in this case self-care).
Whatever the vessel, get one and start using it!
Day Four: Do Nothing
You heard me. Sit and do NOTHING!
I know, as a Mom that is really hard to do. There is already a to-do list a mile long and not enough time in the day to complete it. And now I’m telling you to waste some of that precious time?
No…I’m telling you to set aside some of that precious time to do nothing.
Ignore your to-do list, your passion projects, dinner…whatever you need to. Let them be for just a few minutes.
Get a cup of tea (or wine), sit outside if it’s a nice day or by a window cuddled in a blanket if it’s not.
Watch the birds, the clouds, the trees swaying. Remember you are part of a whole…
Day Five: Go Barefoot
As I write this, it is the middle of winter yet it is 62 degrees outside. If you are taking this challenge in the summer…this should be easy peasy.
Being barefoot on the grass or the dirt grounds you.
It literally removes negative ions from your body. This is one of my go-tos on warm sunny days.
Walk barefoot for about 15 minutes and feel the grass, sand, dirt in your toes. Feel the give of the soft earth beneath you.
Again, this self-love practice can make you feel part of the whole.
Day Six: Play
With your kids.
With your spouse, your friends, your siblings…whoever.
Just play. Have fun. Laugh.
For at least 15 minutes…play Mama! Play!
Day Seven: Say No
Many of us, as Mamas, tend to feel like we need to do it all.
Do you have this weakness? This inability to say “No” to things even when you KNOW you don’t have the time or energy to fit it into your schedule.
Or maybe…wait for it…you just don’t want to do it. Yes, you’re allowed those too!
If the task at hand is not an essential one for you and your family to stay alive, if it does not bring joy to you in some manner then say No.
Self-love means not being drained all the time. It means caring for your body, mind and soul. For the sake of your being Mama…
Just say NO!
Day Eight: Watch the Sun Rise
I hear from Mamas all the time, “I wake up an hour before my kids just to have some time to myself!”
Then I ask what they do in that hour. And here are the most common answers:
- Make lunches
- Get breakfast ready
- Get backpacks set up
- Take a shower
- Have a cup of coffee or tea
Tough love time again…
I’m sorry, but if you are waking up an hour before your kids to have an hour “to yourself” that is not using those 60-minutes very wisely.
Use those 60 minutes to incorporate some of the self-love practices outlined in this challenge. And when the morning light starts to break…stop.
Stop and watch the sun break over the horizon…bringing light into the darkness and starting a brand new day full of possibilities.
Day Nine: Take a Walk in Nature
Whether it’s the middle of winter or the dead heat of summer, Mother Earth always provides.
Take 15 minutes and go for a stroll in nature.
Feel the breeze on a warm day, or how the sun warms your face on a cold one.
Let the fresh air fill your lungs and clear your head.
Connect with the earth, the trees, yourself. Then go back home with a renewed sense of purpose filled with the energy of life.
Day Ten: Say “I Love You”
That’s right. I want you to go to your bathroom and look in the mirror.
Look yourself in the eyes and say “I love you”.
Read your affirmations to yourself while making eye contact in the mirror.
Say “I Love You” to yourself until your eyes fill with tears. Until you realize how much you matter.
Say “I Love You” until you TRULY feel worthy of self-love and self-care.
10-Day Self-Love Challenge
That’s it Mamas! Share this challenge with your friends. Let us know how it went for you. Which day was the most difficult? Which day made the biggest impact?
When self-love is hard, remember your kiddos are watching…if you can’t muster up the strength to do it for yourself, do it for them.
And remember Mama, I am ALWAYS sending you love!
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